Best Text To Get Your Ex Back

Sep 21

What’s the best text to get your ex back? Does such a thing even exist?

Today I’ll look at several different types of texts from the Text Your Ex Back Michael Fiore program. We’ll find out if there’s a clear winner for the title of “best text to get your ex back”.

The core system of the Text Your Ex Back program by Michael Fiore centers around 5 main categories of text messages. Each category has different “texting formulas” associated with it and some have smaller subsets of texts that fall under the main category.

Best Text To Get Your Ex Back – 5 Contenders

The 5 core types of text messages you’ll learn in Text Your Ex Back are…

  • Across The Bow Texts
  • Best Of The Relationship Texts
  • Intimacy Booster Texts
  • The Green Eyed Monster Text
  • Emotional Honesty Texts

Which is the best text to get your ex back? None of them? All of them?

Each type of text has a unique purpose and they all need to be used together to connect with your ex in a way that will open them to the idea of being with you again.

Let’s explore each type of text in greater detail.

Across The Bow Texts

In the Text Your Ex Back program, Michael Fiore first introduces you to what he refers to as “across the bow texts”.

So what exactly is an across the bow text?

Michael Fiore says…

“An ‘Across The Bow’ text is a shot in the dark. It’s that first text you send when you haven’t talked to or seen your ex in a while, and is designed to let them know that you’re thinking about them, that you don’t have any negative feelings towards them, and that you’re not horribly, horribly messed up over the break up (even if you actually are).”

With an across the bow text, you just want to open the lines of communication. And when I say “open the lines of communication” I don’t even necessarily mean getting a response from your ex.

An across the bow text is more about letting your ex hear from you in a positive way and shouldn’t actually put any pressure on your ex to respond. They can reply if they want to, but a good across the bow text won’t make them feel like they HAVE to reply.

These are the best texts to get your ex back in terms of opening the door to further communication down the road.

Across the bow texts simply allow you to make contact in a way that gets your ex thinking about you again in a positive way.

You aren’t asking them out on a date. You aren’t asking them to meet up so you can talk things out. You aren’t trying to rev up the romance or get your ex to sleep with you. You aren’t trying to mend your past relationship.

Instead you just want to validate your ex’s emotions and start creating a positive experience. If you don’t get a reply to an across the bow text, no worries. It’s perfectly normal.

Best Of The Relationship Texts

Our next contender for the title of best text to get your ex back is what Michael Fiore calls best of the relationship texts.

Best of the relationship texts expand upon across the bow texts by continuing to build positive rapport between you and your ex.

Michael Fiore explains…

“In your “Best Of The Relationship” texts you’re going to bring up past experiences using as much POSITIVE emotional language and DETAIL as possible. The “Text Judo” here is that we’re taking the powerful emotions your ex already feels around you and pushing them towards positive thoughts instead of the negative thoughts they may have now.”

With best of the relationship texts you’ll be combining emotional language with detail to remind your ex of fun, bonding, and other positive experiences you’ve shared together so they start to remember and experience the powerful emotions they once had and probably still have for you.

These are very cool and very powerful when used the right way.

Michael Fiore also describes the “small ask” which is an incredibly effective way to lead into the positive experiences you want your ex to remember. Some of these little “tricks” he shares are priceless.

Intimacy Booster Texts

Could intimacy boosters actually be the best text to get your ex back?

Intimacy booster texts are similar to best of relationship texts but they focus more on “intimacy” and “closeness” rather than positive experiences. The goal of intimacy booster texts is to remind your ex how close and connected you once were and to open them to the idea that you could be that close once again.

Michael describes them like this…

“Your goal is to remind them of that intimacy and connection in a positive way. You want your ex to almost YEARN for the close support you provided for them, and you want to do it all over text.”

These are extremely powerful and can really hit home with your ex. However, they can also be a little tricky to get right and they can backfire if you’re not careful.

Michael Fiore offers some good guidelines in Text Your Ex Back to help you get the most from this type of text message. Pay close attention to what Michael says so they don’t come across as being manipulative, ok?

The Green Eyed Monster Text

Green eyed monster texts are probably not the best text to get your ex back simply because when you use them you are playing with fire for lack of a better term.

Yes, they can be extremely effective. Yes, they can be extremely powerful. Yes, they can quickly get your ex craving to be with you again.

But your choice of words is extremely critical with this type of text because if not done properly they can be construed as mean and can come across as though you are throwing the breakup in your ex’s face. They require a subtle approach.

Sending green eyed monster texts…

“…involves letting your ex in on the positive aspects of your post-breakup life, while subtly turning the screws in their heart”.

The idea is to let your ex in on your post breakup life in a way that lets them know you aren’t just sitting at home being needy and depressed.

When done properly green eyed monster texts raise up just a tinge of jealousy in your ex by making you appear more valuable, attractive, and desirable because other people are spending time with you.

Knowing you are spending time with other people can make your ex miss the times they used to share with you. It can cause them to want to mend the rift so they can get those times back before they lose them for good.

Just know that sending a text like, “I totally hooked up with this hottie last night and oh my was she FUN” is completely the WRONG way to go about using jealousy to your advantage.

Since they are so easy to mess up, I don’t think green eyed monster texts or other jealousy texts are the best text to get your ex back and they should be used sparingly and only after you’ve been back in touch with your ex for a while using some of the other types of texts we’ve discussed.

Emotional Honesty Texts

When discussing across the bow, best of the relationship, intimacy booster, and green eyed monster texts in Text Your Ex Back, Michael Fiore says…

“All of this stuff works REALLY well . . . But sometimes you just have to cut the past the bullshit and tell your ex how you really feel. No excuses, no blaming, no fighting, no crap. You just take out your cell phone (and with your thumb shaking and lip quivering) tell your ex THE TRUTH.”

What he is referring to is emotional honesty texts.

Are they the best text to get your ex back? They definitely rank high on the list because they are so honest, open, and allow you to speak from your heart.

But at the same time, they don’t really have a place without first using some of the other types of texts.

If you just jump straight into an emotional honesty text right off the bat, you’re likely to scare your ex away for good because it will probably be too much to handle when emotions are still running rampant and you don’t have much of a rapport anymore.

Emotional honesty texts can fall under several different subsets which include things like giving your ex compliments to show you care, telling your ex what you appreciate about them, opening your heart and saying exactly how you feel, and describing what you miss most about your relationship with your ex.

Michael Fiore walks you through each type in Text Your Ex Back so you can apply those that will be most helpful to your own situation.

Best Text To Get Your Ex Back – Final Thoughts

So what’s my conclusion on the best text to get your ex back?

Well, as I said in the beginning of this post, I don’t think you can use just one type of text to get your ex back. There isn’t a single best text to get your ex back.

The reason the Michael Fiore Text Your Ex Back program is effective is because it’s a system. It’s not just a big list of text message examples.

It’s an actual system where each type of text has a specific purpose and builds upon the next. It’s the combination of the different types of texts working together that can eventually lead to your ex making the decision to be with you again.

And that’s awesome!


  1. My guy friend just broke my heart. I really want to be more than just friends. He said he might take me on a date sometime, and completely stopped talking to me. He then told me he wanted to take another woman out on a date. Is it too late to change my relationship with him? He made me tell him how I feel and he keeps telling me that we’re just friends. Why did he use me and make it sound like he actually wanted me, then change his mind? Is there anything that I can do?

    • Hi Lisa,

      The best thing you can do with this guy is to let him go…at least for now. It doesn’t mean things won’t change down the road, but it doesn’t sound like he’s currently in a position to give you the committed relationship you want. He’s been open about wanting to “play the field” and date other women. He’s also told you that he just wants to be friends.

      If your relationship started out as a friendship, then it’s possible he’s always seen it as nothing more than that. You’ve been hoping it would develop into more, but he’s been completely comfortable with the “status quo”. You won’t get him to date you by being overly nice, sleeping with him, or by being his friend. Instead, you’ll keep getting hurt by expecting more than he’s willing to give right now. If he can continue to have you as a friend and still date other women at the same time, then he’ll have no reason to date and commit to you because he’s getting the best of both worlds.

      The best thing to do is to let him go for now and go out and meet and date some other guys. After all, do you really want to wait around for a guy who “MIGHT” take you on a date sometime?